SOLO Dojo — Relationship Recovery Facilitation

Where you are

The story you keep telling isn't healing you. It's keeping you company in the wreckage.

You've already done the hardest thing — you left, or it ended, and you survived it. But surviving isn't the same as becoming whole. You're competent everywhere else in your life, and yet here you are, replaying it, explaining it, searching for proof that you weren't the problem and that you're still lovable.

If you've worked through the 2-week Solo Dojo protocol, you've felt the first shift — you've caught yourself choosing yourself in small ways. This is what comes next: the deeper, accompanied work of actually rebuilding the person who can love and be loved again.

Does this sound like you?

You may be ready for this work.

You've left a high-conflict or long relationship and you're exhausted from telling the story.
You're successful and respected — and privately unsure who you are without the relationship.
You oscillate between "they really hurt me" and "what if I was the problem," and neither brings peace.
You're afraid of being alone, and more afraid of choosing wrong again.
You want to do this right — not bypass the grief, not rush into the next thing to avoid it.
You're ready to stop seeking validation from others and build self-trust that no one can take.
You value real mentorship over more months of talking in circles.

The SOLO path

Four movements from victim to sovereign.

The recovery work follows the SOLO Compass — the same framework beneath the 2-week protocol, now taken slower, deeper, and held by me directly.

Sovereign

Reclaim your somatic sense of self. Learn to trust your own perceptions again after months of doubting them.

Ownership

Move from victim to empowered — without blame, without shame, and without taking responsibility for someone else's behavior.

Letting Go

Release what you cannot control, and grieve what actually ended, so you make real space for what wants to emerge.

Opening

Begin following authentic inspiration from wholeness rather than woundedness — ready, in time, for connection that's chosen, not clung to.

The recovery container

Accompanied, not alone.

This is the high-touch tier of SOLO Dojo — where the protocol becomes a relationship. You're guided through the full SOLO arc with my direct attention, at the pace your grief actually needs.

SOLO Dojo Recovery — Private Facilitation

A multi-session 1:1 container across the four movements, shaped to where you are and where you're going. Somatic practice, real mentorship, and a steady presence through the hardest passage.

The full SOLO Compass, taken at depth — not a 2-week sprint but a true rebuilding

Private sessions with my devoted attention as the guide in your corner

Somatic practices to reconnect with the self beneath the relationship story

Integration between sessions, so the change holds in your real life

A clear path toward readiness — for self-trust first, and intimacy when you're truly ready

Private container from $1,500 (a multi-session arc, scaled to scope). Small-group cohorts open periodically at a lower investment. Begin with a conversation to find the right fit.

Who guides this

Tony Holmes — the Love Warrior

I built this work from the inside. After my own divorce, I moved through a long season of disconnection — cut off from my sexuality, my partner, and myself. I told the story to anyone who'd listen, looking for proof I wasn't the problem. It kept me stuck.

The turning point came when I chose to become my own life partner — and put a ring on my own finger as a reminder that I was choosable, by myself, first and always. That single shift changed everything, and it became the SOLO Dojo.

HAI Global Facilitator Esalen Institute Faculty Somatic Practitioner Northwestern-Trained Mediator

Where this leads

Recovery is a beginning, not an end.

SOLO Dojo is the first passage in a longer journey. You come home to yourself here — and when you're ready, that wholeness becomes the ground for everything that follows.

Entry · Self-paced

The Solo Dojo 2-Week Protocol

The doorway. Stop the damage, break the story-telling cycle, take the first step back to yourself.

$27 · Instant access

You are here · Accompanied

SOLO Dojo Recovery Facilitation

The rebuilding. Private or small-group work through the full SOLO arc, guided directly.

Private container from $1,500 · By conversation

When ready · Reopening

Pleasure Alchemy & The Djedi Session

The reopening. Once you've recovered your own ground, the deeper work of desire, intimacy, and aliveness.

Explore when the time is right

Begin

You've already survived the hardest part.

The next step is a conversation — twenty minutes to see whether this is your moment for the deeper work. No pressure, no pitch.

Request a Recovery Conversation Start with the $27 Protocol

Or reach Tony directly: Tony@TheLoveWarrior.com